The best story about encouraging your spouse to pursue his dreams

Today, on my husband’s birthday, I reflect on the kind of wife I want to be for him.

I cannot think of a better example than this:

Nathaniel Hawthorne lost his job at a customhouse and went home to break the news to his wife, Sophia. Rather than the reaction he expected, she was joyous. “Now you can write your book,” she told him.

Unconvinced, Hawthorne asked her, “And what shall we live on while I am writing it?”

Sophia opened a drawer that contained a substantial amount of money and told him, “I have always known that you were a man of genius. I knew that someday you would write a masterpiece.”

She went on to explain that she had saved some of the household money each week, and had accumulated enough to last for a year. And with that, Hawthorne set to work on The Scarlet Letter, required reading for many of us in our high school English classes. And all because Sophia Hawthorne refused to let her husband be discouraged.  

-As told by author Harvey Mackay, page 47


Don’t you love that story? One of the greatest callings of a spouse is to be their person’s greatest partner and encourager.

The scripture so popular at weddings – 1 Corinthians 13 – says that love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

And if it’s your goal to raise children to have abundant life in Christ, then it will be done best by cherishing and encouraging your spouse.

I want to be like Sophia Hawthorne in the way she encouraged her spouse to pursue his dreams.

My husband knows where our money goes, so I won’t get away with putting any aside for him to create his masterpiece should he ever lose his job.

My husband is also not an author. But my husband IS a man of genius. I don’t tell him that enough.

In as many ways as I can, I resolve to be his encourager.


Question for you: What things have you done or said – little or big – to encourage your spouse?


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